What You Can do if You Think Someone You Care about has Depression?

ByFamily Doctor
Depression Scaled


2020 has been a difficult year around the world, and feeling sad is a normal response to unexpected loss and hardship. We’ve all had days when we feel low, whether it’s because of upsetting life events or for no apparent reason.  These difficult feelings are an important part of being human and usually resolve with time. On the other hand, a person who is experiencing a depressive illness may have a persistent low mood with some behaviour changes such as irritability, withdrawal, and difficulties coping. Websites such as the Black Dog Institute and Beyond Blue have very useful information on the possible signs and symptoms of depression in different people.

If you have noticed changes in someone that you care about, and you’re worried they may have depression here are a few useful steps:

  • Try talking to them about it – Start by asking how they are going, the opening line “are you OK?” is often helpful
  • If they are ready to talk – listen to what they say and take it seriously without judgement. Remember you do not need to fix the problem or “cheer them up”
  • If they don’t want to talk yet – you can calmly and kindly explain your concerns and what you have noticed
  • Let them know that you care – and be supportive
  • Encourage the person to get help – The first step is usually making an appointment with their GP, and it is sometimes appropriate to help the person to do this or even take them to the appointment.
  • Check-in again – whatever the outcome of your initial conversation is, make a time to follow-up, see how they are going and if they are getting support.
  • Look after yourself too – helping someone can be stressful and it’s important to use your own support network. 

If you are worried about the safety of your loved one or yourself, you can call the Mental Health Line on 1800 011 511. They are available to anyone in NSW 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and can provide professional advice as well as directing you where to go for help.

Lifeline also provides a 24/7 crisis support service which you can access by either calling 13 11 14 or chatting online through their website. If you are concerned about any immediate danger, please contact emergency services on 000.